My Stress Reliever

I went to the doctor today and she got me hooked on the nebulizer. My asthma has been going on a few days now and I've got two days mc for it. I wouldn't say my job is very hectic. God knows how much hectic work I've been through. I can handle a  lot of work and multi task. The problem with me is that when stress gets the better of me and being emotional (coz fiance's like super bz too, so we don't talk much now) that's when my asthma starts. Thank goodness me being unwell started end of last week and thus its study week this week. I need plenty of rest. Shit, I need a massage.

Whenever I started getting stressed up, I would always find something to cook in the kitchen. Baking and cooking is a way for me to de-stress I miss it.

If i had it my way, I would just like to teach part time and stay at home and cook and be a housewife, while running a small business on my own.

On another note, I found a mobile spa on the net. http://kalenaspa.blogspot.com. I have an urge to book a time for tomorrow and get her to massage. Should I??

Opposites Attract

Was discussing on relationships with my colleagues when one of them brought up the topic. Her husband is very organised while she is very messy. So far, most couples tend to have opposite characteristics of their partner. That's very true. I'm the making list person. I've got to budget, plan and organised my time. I hate having to forget something and going back for it which ends up wasting a lot of time and money. My fiance however is the 'esok nak makan cerita esok je la'. Annoying tak?

How the hell did we end up being able to get well together is really beyond my comprehension. He does sometimes drive me up the wall with his don't care attitude. I cannot tahan man...

So whenever we meet up (which is not very often nowadays) he'll ask what's the plan. Then, I'll start reading my list of things to do in the order I want them to be done. (He finds me annoying too!)

But gosh, don't we compliment each other well. I am a very compulsive person. I'll just jump the gun if I see that the opportunity is a good one and just go for it. By hook of by crook I'll get it done. In this area, he's analytical one. He sees the bigger picture clearer and I lean on to him on the decision making.

How do two absolutely different people get together?? I don't know. Love is blind. But I know we're meant to be and there is no other person that I want to spend my life with other than him.

The Honeymoon Dilemna

The honeymoon has never been in our wedding budget. So far it hasn't. Well according to the fiance we MUST include it in. The problem now lies with the questions when and where. Should we leave right after the wedding? Should we wait for at least a week before we get settled? Can we afford a honeymoon now, since we're buying a house and all?

There were a few options. As I have family in Sydney, my auntie offered to accommodate us if we took a holiday there. My cousins were also leaning towards this idea. For a holiday, Australia is really beautiful place with a lot of sight seeing. But the fiance ain't keen of being with family at the moment as we want our alone time. ;)

Second, we wanted to go to China. This was my choice. I've always wanted to go there. Discovering new culture and sights has always been one of the few favourite hits in my travelling itinerary.

Go local. Maybe go see Sabah or Sarawak. We've both never been there or laze around at one of our local beaches.

Krabi or Phuket. This was one of our latest destinations. We're leaning more towards Krabi. Somewhere really private and peaceful in a nice relaxing villa with a private pool.

Decisions....decisions. Now off to scour more honeymoon destinations.

The List

My fiance needed a smoke first before I could show him 'The List'. Lolz.. I've broken it down to complete it within the given month to narrow our focus for each month. It is extremely helpful to plan ahead as it will help you budget for expenses.

January

Book Dewan

Book Photographer

Book Invitation

Finalised Dated

February

Book Caterer

Pay house downpayment

Book graphic designer to create wedding website

March

Book Pelamin

Book make-up artist

send baju for tailoring

compile guestlist 

(I lost everyone's hp no, friends from WMS, Convent, Uitm and everyone else)

Please msg me your numbers!

April

send family and pengapit baju for tailor

start buat bunga pahar

decide on doorgift

decide on hantaran

May

Kursus Kahwin

HIV Test

Book Tak Kadi

June

fittings

Emcee

guestbook table and deco ideas

July

Buy Wedding rings

design wedding card

June

Pre-wedding photoshoot

tempah wedding shoes

August

Suit for Fiance

send invitations for printing

September

Chinese tea wedding ceremony set up

organise and finalise guestlist

October

Wedding website up

Invitations Out

Bachelorette Party

November

Spa time!

December

No stress!!!

Think Wedding!

So I've done the tasks in red. Lots to do. Basically looking at options and comparing prices now. Till then! 

New Blog Alert!!

Check out my youngest sister's blog. It's hilarious!! imandreams.blogspot.com

Been sooo....busy......sorry for the lack of updates!

The Impending Stress

I feel a migraine coming. How do you deal with your parents who out of the blue decides to change the theme of the wedding. Excuse me while I scream in my pillow for awhile.

3 year Anniversary

I woke up early this morning, went to the kitchen and made Almond Bread Pudding. I forgot to take pictures. So I thought of surprising my fiance at his office with it. Things didn't turn out the way I wanted. My car was in the workshop. Papa went somewhere and my mum sent my sis for her swimming lessons. In the end, he managed to come over for lunch before he went off to Putrajaya for a meeting. He stayed for like 10 minutes, ate the pudding and left. So I called him.

Me: Darling...do you remember what day today is?

Him: Today is Sunday right...

Me: It's our 3 year anniversary la sayang...

Him: Omg...I forgot..okok...I take you out for dinner..

Me: Haiz takpela...your mum's coming...

Yes, my fiance is not romantic at all. He sometimes forgets to call me the whole day or even send me a msg. He's not that type of guy. It took me some time to get used to it. It's not that he cares less. He's just really really really absent minded. Boleh plak kan mcm tu. I'm the take-charge kind of person. Everything is planned according the way I want it. I've got a things-to-do list everyday. How do we even manged to get along with each other? It's so wierd that we are exact opposites. But so wonderful that we complement each other so well.

Happy 3 year anniversary to me!

Money..money..money..

The biggest concern for most people is money. It's not everything but without it it can cause a lot of pain.That is the reality of life. I love my darling. Truthfully, we're not the buying gifts sort of couple. We both realised that now its not the time to splurge for unnecessary things. Even when we were studying back in Melaka, I always wondered how my friends would go out and eat fast food every week, watch movies and shop. They really had a lot of  money to spend. I would try to cook almost everyday and on days I was too tired to cook I would cook rice and buy side dishes. My darling and I hardly go out and watch movies. Most of our dates consists of window shopping, walking around streets of Melaka and car rides. I was contented with his company, our conversations and laughter.

Trust me when I say that my shopping habits have changed. I loved good quality branded goods. Yes, I admit I'm a brand snob when it comes to bags and shoes. This is because my fashion taste is not as adventurous and I tend to buy bags that can match most of my outfits. Secondly, certain branded goods last longer especially shoes. Which is why I stop buying vincci shoes. They wear off easily they're not as cheap now. Thirdly, I shop in Singapore either during the mid-year sale or the christmas sale. You can get really really good bargains. I normally stock up on my shopping during this months. You can never find Rockport shoes on sale in Malaysia. Contrary to popular believe I don't splurge unnecessarily. I however love to splurge on my darling but still at really good bargains.

So yea back to the money issue. Weddings are expensive. So it's really important to plan ahead and start saving, scrimping for the upcoming nuptials. Especially for your life together after the wedding. As I said before the wedding is the big party for the parents. The life together is the icing of the cake.

So I don't need a big diamond rock on my finger. I rather have a home together for our future.

and well....if you need fast cash...the only person to ask is .........."Pa.....I need your credit card!!" heheh...mmg anak papa la sampai bila-bila.

Should I start worrying?

I got lectured by my dad just now.

Me: happily yapping about booking my pelamin and deciding my bunga pahar.

Papa: Kakak, you don't have to worry about the catering and all the small things like bunga telur and bunga   pahar.

Me: thinking...did he just say that the bunga pahar is a small thing?? no..no...I plan to make lilies...

Papa: Because this wedding is me and mama's event. You are the product...

Me: still thinking...hah?? I'm a thing now..worse a display product..

Papa: ...of me and mama. So you just focus on being happy on that day. Even the card will say walimatulurus papa and mama. So we will decide everything..

Me: Can I do my hair this way??

Papa: ok. simple is best...

Ladies and gentlemen...I have no say at all for my wedding. Help me.

Btw, I am starting to write out my guestlist. So please email me, or leave a comment here or in fb if you would like to attend my wedding. Include your handphone number and address.

Hair Fall Control

I have always had thick and heavy hair. Since I was much younger. I think it was much thicker back then. There was one point in my life where I had truly unruly and unmanageable hair. My dad didn't like how my hair turned out so he sent me to the saloon and had it straighten. I was thirteen then. Since then, I have highlighted my hair ash blond, dyed it a few times and experimented with it. Throughout my high school years I've had different hair styles. I've had bobs, really short hair, layered do and well you get the picture. But I didn't like having it short as I would only be able to keep the style for 2 weeks before it got out of shape again.

So when I hit my twenties I decided to just keep it long. Well longer I guess. Somehow, I would still go to the saloon every two weeks and have a few inches cut off. Long hair is really heavy.

Now a lot of people have been complimenting my hair saying that I've got really beautiful hair. Thank you for your kinds words. My colleagues even my students made comments and well it made my day. My ganja smoking hair guy would probably tell you a different story. He says that I'm too lazy take care of my hair and that I'm losing it. He's probably true. hehe..

There are a few reasons I think why I'm losing it. First, I don't wash my hair everyday. When its wet it becomes very heavy. Besides everytime I wash it I have to mask and well I'm too lazy to do that. Secondly, my scalp kinda gets oily fast. So I've fixed the problem. Now I'm using organic shampoo and so far the condition of my hair seems to be improving. Yay! I have to really keep my hair long for the wedding.

Here are some my tips which I practice to take care of my hair. I wash my hair every two days. It's because I have really thick hair. Whenever I wash it, I will put on hair mask and leave it for 15 minutes. Make sure when you mask your hair to only mask the part of your hair that is below your ear. After you rinse out the mask squeeze  excess water from your hair with a towel. Then let your hair dry. Don't have to use the hair dryer. Just leave it. My hair takes a pretty long time to dry. Don't brush or comb your hair. When its half dry, put in leave in conditioner at the ends of your hair. You can comb through your hair with your fingers if your want. Basically that's it. I don't brush or comb my hair. I hardly ever tie it up. Try to massage your scalp from time to time so that there is blood circulation and hair grows faster.

I'm trying to grow my hair and have it reached my waist. Try first la.....

Down with the blues

I've got the mumps. That's what my dad says. One side of my face is bengkak. I can't speak loudly or chew my food. My fiance had to buy porridge and blend it for me so i can slurp it down. It hurts. It's annoying.

On another note, Thumbs the hamster is missing. I just worry about stepping on it somewhere in the house.

Been marking the mid-semester exam paper. I am just tickled with laughter by their err 'creativity'. I didn't expect it to be this bad at the university level.

My grandma is in hospital again. I really want her to come and stay with us. Please pray for her to recover quickly. I miss her.

Happy CNY!

To everyone celebrating CNY have a wonderful celebration. My fiance will be driving back to Ipoh tonight for his family's reunion dinner. Teringin plak nak makan yee sang. What i have observed over the past decade is that the chinese do not wear their traditional costumes anymore like the cheongsam and qipao. Its such a pity. I was just imagining wearing a cheongsam for CNY.

Gorgeous! I love the lace patching on this cheongsam.

I wonder why the tradition stopped? Hmm..anyone has an answer to that? I wanted to wear the kwa for the chinese tea wedding ceremony. Its so pretty.

But with the outfits I have now, I don't think I have any more chances to wear these. Sigh. We'll see how everything goes.