Marriage

A marriage is a union of two people. It may have started of with love but love do not just take marriage by its reins. We (me and fiance) have never been the impulsive types to fall on love. Hell, I take a long time to care for someone. I'm very suspicious of people in general and only a number of people (which I can count with my fingers) know me in and out. First impressions would probably put me as a stuck up bitch. Truth is, I'm more afraid showing myself to anybody. I don't like to be seen as weak. I think that is why we get along well together. He's sort of like that himself.

I always told myself that love is not forever. I cannot bring myself to say I love you everyday to my partner. I will  only say it when I truly meant it. Love is so precious to me. I believe that care or 'kasih sayang' is more important. Because that is for life. When you truly care for someone, only then you will think deeply about your actions. You want to try your best to make him happy and comfortable.

I see married couples around me, some younger, some older. Their marriage is falling apart and I wonder, what rocked the foundations of their marriage? It is truly sacred, making that decision to spend your whole life with the other. A huge decision. Does this person share the same outlook and future that I want? Would I want to build a family with him? Would he make a good husband and father to my children? Can he be a leader and lead my family? Is he responsible? Does he share my morals and values? Will he care for me as much as I care for him and more? The decision is not on the whim. It is not truly all based on love (but of course you need to love him).

We actually discuss all of this. He's not one to plan surprises and such. The more we shared, the more we see what a great fit we were for each other. Of course, we had our troubled moments. So one day, he just asked me outright. Marry him. And I can't help smiling. Everything was right. Everything felt right and I'm glad to have this wonderful man with me by side. They definitely don't make men like him anymore this generation. =)

Hullo...

I've recovered and being sick for week was certainly unpleasant. The doc gave me three days mc...


I miss talking to my fiance. I miss him so much...Even though we both work in Shah Alam, we hardly get to see each other.

Sad eh..

My Stress Reliever

I went to the doctor today and she got me hooked on the nebulizer. My asthma has been going on a few days now and I've got two days mc for it. I wouldn't say my job is very hectic. God knows how much hectic work I've been through. I can handle a  lot of work and multi task. The problem with me is that when stress gets the better of me and being emotional (coz fiance's like super bz too, so we don't talk much now) that's when my asthma starts. Thank goodness me being unwell started end of last week and thus its study week this week. I need plenty of rest. Shit, I need a massage.

Whenever I started getting stressed up, I would always find something to cook in the kitchen. Baking and cooking is a way for me to de-stress I miss it.

If i had it my way, I would just like to teach part time and stay at home and cook and be a housewife, while running a small business on my own.

On another note, I found a mobile spa on the net. http://kalenaspa.blogspot.com. I have an urge to book a time for tomorrow and get her to massage. Should I??

Opposites Attract

Was discussing on relationships with my colleagues when one of them brought up the topic. Her husband is very organised while she is very messy. So far, most couples tend to have opposite characteristics of their partner. That's very true. I'm the making list person. I've got to budget, plan and organised my time. I hate having to forget something and going back for it which ends up wasting a lot of time and money. My fiance however is the 'esok nak makan cerita esok je la'. Annoying tak?

How the hell did we end up being able to get well together is really beyond my comprehension. He does sometimes drive me up the wall with his don't care attitude. I cannot tahan man...

So whenever we meet up (which is not very often nowadays) he'll ask what's the plan. Then, I'll start reading my list of things to do in the order I want them to be done. (He finds me annoying too!)

But gosh, don't we compliment each other well. I am a very compulsive person. I'll just jump the gun if I see that the opportunity is a good one and just go for it. By hook of by crook I'll get it done. In this area, he's analytical one. He sees the bigger picture clearer and I lean on to him on the decision making.

How do two absolutely different people get together?? I don't know. Love is blind. But I know we're meant to be and there is no other person that I want to spend my life with other than him.

The Honeymoon Dilemna

The honeymoon has never been in our wedding budget. So far it hasn't. Well according to the fiance we MUST include it in. The problem now lies with the questions when and where. Should we leave right after the wedding? Should we wait for at least a week before we get settled? Can we afford a honeymoon now, since we're buying a house and all?

There were a few options. As I have family in Sydney, my auntie offered to accommodate us if we took a holiday there. My cousins were also leaning towards this idea. For a holiday, Australia is really beautiful place with a lot of sight seeing. But the fiance ain't keen of being with family at the moment as we want our alone time. ;)

Second, we wanted to go to China. This was my choice. I've always wanted to go there. Discovering new culture and sights has always been one of the few favourite hits in my travelling itinerary.

Go local. Maybe go see Sabah or Sarawak. We've both never been there or laze around at one of our local beaches.

Krabi or Phuket. This was one of our latest destinations. We're leaning more towards Krabi. Somewhere really private and peaceful in a nice relaxing villa with a private pool.

Decisions....decisions. Now off to scour more honeymoon destinations.

The List

My fiance needed a smoke first before I could show him 'The List'. Lolz.. I've broken it down to complete it within the given month to narrow our focus for each month. It is extremely helpful to plan ahead as it will help you budget for expenses.

January

Book Dewan

Book Photographer

Book Invitation

Finalised Dated

February

Book Caterer

Pay house downpayment

Book graphic designer to create wedding website

March

Book Pelamin

Book make-up artist

send baju for tailoring

compile guestlist 

(I lost everyone's hp no, friends from WMS, Convent, Uitm and everyone else)

Please msg me your numbers!

April

send family and pengapit baju for tailor

start buat bunga pahar

decide on doorgift

decide on hantaran

May

Kursus Kahwin

HIV Test

Book Tak Kadi

June

fittings

Emcee

guestbook table and deco ideas

July

Buy Wedding rings

design wedding card

June

Pre-wedding photoshoot

tempah wedding shoes

August

Suit for Fiance

send invitations for printing

September

Chinese tea wedding ceremony set up

organise and finalise guestlist

October

Wedding website up

Invitations Out

Bachelorette Party

November

Spa time!

December

No stress!!!

Think Wedding!

So I've done the tasks in red. Lots to do. Basically looking at options and comparing prices now. Till then! 

New Blog Alert!!

Check out my youngest sister's blog. It's hilarious!! imandreams.blogspot.com

Been sooo....busy......sorry for the lack of updates!